It’s easier for us to see certain traits in others than in ourselves. Chances are, what we notice in others, are the same characteristics we hold in ourselves. Sometimes, it’s easier to turn to nature to identify our strengths and weaknesses. I recently read an article about trees and discovered the differences between Banyans and Cottonwoods. It made me realize that our strengths and weaknesses have essential life roles, even with all our vulnerabilities and flaws.

Cottonwoods have broad trunks and extensive limbs that provide good shade. They grow fast and can reach a canopy of 75 feet. In the fall, the lush green leaves turn into a robust yellow. Interestingly, they have either male or female parts on separate trees. Only the female trees produce cotton-like seeds that are messy when they shed. The trees have soft bark that can be easily carved and even used as a food source or medicinally. As beautiful as they are, the soft bark and shallow root system make them susceptible to disease and uprooting during storms.

Banyan trees have a different kind of beauty, more majestic. One tree can cover massive amounts of turf and reach heights as tall as Cottonwoods. They require insects or birds to transport their seeds to other trees that become hosts for new growth, which grows downward, looking like wooden candle wax melting into the soil. Even though the seeds are messy and strangle their hosts to propagate, they are an essential food source for birds and many other life forms, along with medicinal values for digestive and intestinal disorders. The Banyan has a history of spiritual symbolism in India and other parts of the world, with a life span of up to 500 years. Despite their survival capabilities, they are also susceptible to brutal invasions by various insects and fungal infections.

We’ve heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Cottonwoods are strikingly beautiful, yet, like Banyans, are messy. While they might be more aesthetically desirable than Banyan and can serve survival needs, the shallow root system doesn’t allow for sturdy permanence. The Cottonwoods can teach us to appreciate beauty but also to work on building a profoundly rooted system in things that last. Otherwise, it’s easy to be blown down by life’s unmerciful winds and unexpected dis-eases.

The Banyan’s need for parasitic survival may seem cruel, and the tree might seem creepy to some people. But nature’s divine plan uses the Banyan as a host for many life forms, which might explain its longevity. We may not like seeing ourselves like Banyan trees, but we also depend on other life forms for survival. And without proper nutrition, we are susceptible to many illnesses as well. We can learn from the Banyan to use all resources to grow and endlessly spread our roots into deeper soil.

Both trees provide shelter, medicine, food, and shade. Both make messes, but nature turns those messes into the miracles of creation. As humans, we do things and experience pain that we don’t always understand. Let us age with grace, bend with the wind, and firmly root ourselves in things that nourish our bodies and essence. Let us be soft and beautiful like the Cottonwood and relentlessly rooted like the Banyan. Then we can turn all our life experiences into being served and serving others, a perennial process of abundant, unconditional love. Only then does it all make sense.

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Donna Marks is an educator, licensed psychotherapist, and addictions counselor in Palm Beach, Florida. She has worked with over 6,000 clients. Donna’s struggle with addiction brought her to a worldwide search for healing. She became licensed as a Mental Health Counselor in 1987. In 1989, she earned a Doctorate Degree in Adult Education, then became Certified in Addictions, Gestalt Therapy, Psychoanalysis, Hypnosis, and Sex Therapy. Donna developed an award-winning addiction training program at Palm Beach Community College. She co-owns an outpatient treatment program and serves as a consultant to treatment centers. For 36 years, she has taught A Course in Miracles.

Donna is the author of three books: the multi-award-winning title Exit the Maze: One Addiction, One Cause, One Cureand Learn, Grow, Forgive: A Path to Spiritual Success, The Healing Moment: Seven Paths to Turn Messes into Miracles of Love, and her latest fiction, Fortis & Sapiente – A Tale of Two Lovers Who Successfully Navigate the Murky Waters of Love. Donna is a public speaker and has shared her methods with millions of listeners on podcasts and radio shows.

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