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There’s a “how to” for just about everything regarding achieving your goals. They usually entail following strict schedules and charts that allot time for marketing, writing, family, interviewing, completing tasks, exercising, meetings, etc. I used to read about those methods and felt guilty for not following them. Not anymore. Even though there are excellent books on the most effective way to manage your life (and I’ve gotten many tools from them), the best way is to find out what works best for you.

Let Your Own Biological Clock Govern You – I have a theory that if you were born at night, you’re nocturnal, and if during the day, diurnal. If you’re a night person and not a morning person, training yourself to get up a five or six o’clock every morning is unnatural and can be counterproductive because you’re not as alert, and vice-versa. I’m a night person and do my best work late and sometimes past midnight. Even if I go to sleep early and write in the morning, I always edit at night when my mind is the crispest. As for getting out and exercising, it’s usually in the gym at noon or after work. I enjoy the cool walks in the mornings; they’re just fewer because I’d rather sleep in. Work is much more productive when, whatever time I awaken, I read, meditate, catch up on projects, and then go to the office in the afternoon.

Manage Your Time, Not Life– I realize that the older I get, time is more valuable than money because I have more money and less time. People spend too much time managing their lives – which usually boils down to trying to manage others. They also spend many hours accomplishing nothing. There’s no time management formula for people who waste time. People often ask, “How do you possibly accomplish so much?” I’ve thought about that, and it comes down to one thing. I never waste time. Every minute is devoted to accomplishments. Nothing piles up. I don’t procrastinate. Whenever possible, I do it now. I delegate whatever I can’t do, or it bogs me down. After dinner, I always relax. I have a clean slate before I indulge in a peaceful sleep. My mind never dwells on a to-do list because I’ve already done it.

Do What You Love – If you’re not enjoying your daily life, you’re doing the wrong things. Many people are in a career or relationship where they can’t blossom and bloom and consequently feel frustrated or depressed. Who’s in charge of you, your life, and how you spend your time? If you don’t like what you’re doing, change it. If fear is stopping you, try making loving choices instead. It’s never too late to be happy; no one can do that better than you.

If something is weighing you down or you have a relationship that drains you (alcohol, drugs, other addictions, takers and users, disrespectful boss, unpleasant career), get rid of it/them.
Negative energy doesn’t go away on its own and always overshadows positive.

It’s impossible to accomplish much if you don’t like what you’re trying to achieve. And you can’t achieve goals if you’re engaging in behavior that drains your energy.

Accomplishing your goals is a personal matter and easily achievable if you don’t get in your own way. Find your own rhythm with daily living and follow it. Stop wasting time on nonsense and things that don’t enhance your life. Do what you love, including people. Once you find a stride that works for you, trust it, and enjoy your success.

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Dr. Donna Marks has been an author, consultant, public speaker, and psychotherapist for over thirty years. She was licensed as a Mental Health Counselor in 1987 and then certified in Addiction, Gestalt Therapy, Hypnosis, Sex Therapy, and Psychoanalysis. She currently has a concierge psychotherapy practice in Palm Beach, Florida.
She has appeared on numerous podcasts and local television. She is the author of two books, Learn Grow Forgive – A Path to Spiritual Success, and Exit the Maze: One Addiction, One Cause, One Solution (revised), and winner of multiple book awards. Her next book, The Healing Moment: Seven Keys to Turn Messes into Miracles, will be released in 2023.

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