There’s one thing we all have in common, a mom. Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate that woman for giving you the gift of life. Even if you didn’t have an ideal childhood, the fact you were born means she loved enough to bring you into the world. Whether you had a fabulous mom or one that fell short of your expectations, it’s not too late to say thank you. You never know how long your mom will be here, so now’s the time to give her the best Mother’s Day ever.
Some people don’t remember this special day, which can be sad for mom and child. There are probably reasons that you forget her day of honor, but you can be the one to make the difference this Mother’s Day.
You can make a list of all the three or four things your mom did for you. When did she stick up for you? When did she cook your favorite dish? What is your most cherished memory? When did the two of you laugh the hardest? Recall one or two things you admire about her. Write down those treasured memories and either tell her in person or put in a card or a letter. You will be surprised how happy you will make her when she rekindles those precious moments.
Show Her Appreciation
A simple phone call or a card can express your feelings, but there’s, even more you can do. You could pick some fresh flowers and wrap a ribbon around them. This could mean even more to her than an expensive bouquet. Preparing her favorite dish is also a way to acknowledge that she’s worth the extra effort you will be putting forth. Asking her what she’d like to do on Mother’s Day is a lovely affirmation that you want to give back for all that she’s done for you.
Some people have ideal moms, and others have mothers with limitations. Most moms are a mixture of both. Sometimes, we hold on to the bad memories instead of the good.
But no matter what happened, forgiveness is the key to your happiness. There’s no reason for both of you to carry the burden of past mistakes. Your mom’s shortcomings had nothing to do with you. She either reenacted her own childhood or was in too much pain to function in a normal way.
Forgiveness will get you past your pain and open the door to new possibilities. One person told me one of the happiest moments of his life occurred when he reached out to his mother, whom he had not spoken with for over 20 years. Once she recovered from hearing his voice, they shared a feeling of overwhelming joy. They then began to build a new relationship based on the present instead of the past.
I often hear people express deep regret that they had not made peace with their moms before they passed on. But even if she has, you can still forgive her by writing her a goodbye letter or just pretend you are having a conversation with her. It’s never too late to make peace.
Some of you have lost your moms – either through separation or passing. If that’s the case, there’s plenty of people who would love to adopt you. Find someone who could be a good surrogate and give her the same praise you would say to a biological mom.
None of us were given a handbook on how to raise children. Whatever your mother did or didn’t do, or whether she’s here or not, Mother’s Day is an excellent day to start being a good mom to yourself. Read about good parenting and learn how to love yourself the way that you always wished she would. By being the love you want, you will find a spiritual mother right inside your very being.
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Donna Marks is an educator and licensed psychotherapist and addictions counselor in Palm Beach, Florida. Since 1989, she has worked with over 6,000 clients. Donna’s struggle with addiction brought her to a worldwide search for healing. She became licensed as a Mental Health Counselor in 1987. In 1989, she earned a Doctorate Degree in Adult Education, then became Certified in Addictions, Gestalt Therapy, Psychoanalysis, Hypnosis, and Sex Therapy. Donna developed an award-winning addiction training program at Palm Beach Community College. She co-owned an outpatient treatment program and is a consultant to treatment centers. Donna is the author of two books; Learn, Grow, Forgive, and the multi-award-winning, Exit the Maze-One Addiction, One Cause, One Cure, and created an online course for people who want to be cured of addiction.
Donna is a public speaker and has shared her methods with hundreds of thousands of listeners on podcasts and radio shows.
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